Existential Kink

"Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality--the "other," the shadow side--is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses--our "existential kink." Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we're undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power"--.